Wholelife Coaching

Here are a series of steps to consider as you are developing a project:

1. Outcome: this is what you would like to happen.  THINK BIG – you can always make adjustments
2. Why Will It Work: You’re confident about the above outcome – why do you think it will happen?
3. Introlerables: You have boundaries and limits – what are they?  No matter how tempting the outcome, can you still honor yourself and maintain your sense of integrity and self worth.
4. Must Have’s: Certain things, conditions, and elements must be present to acquire and sustain your commitment to this process – what are they? Read the rest of this entry »

The only constant in life is change, how many time have you heard that?  No longer do we live in a predictable society; just look at recent world events from a global perspective and you’ll know this to be true.  So how do we find meaning and feel safe in the midst of constant change?  How do we find joy in our day to day lives?  I suggest that the only way to manage change is to commit yourself to personal growth and spiritual fulfillment, to be pro-active about the changes you accept in your life.  This necessitates knowing and living from your life’s purpose.  Life purpose is the big agenda for our lives; some people call it your path or soul purpose.  Your life purpose is as unique to you as your fingerprints.  It’s who you are and why you’re here on earth now. Read the rest of this entry »

One tenant of freedom is choice.  Being ‘at choice’ about our lives is the basis of free will.  It also necessitates that we take responsibility for how we live and the circumstances surrounding our lives.  As a coach, I ask clients to leave behind their usual reactive approach to life and embrace a proactive stance.  This involves choosing the life that they want, rather than letting the circumstances of their lives choose for them.  This is a challenging process for most people yet without this level of personal responsibility, we remain powerless.  We live in an increasingly complex world where the ability to make discriminating choices is becoming more and more important.  Although the notion of having it all has become popular, it just isn’t possible.  In fact, the more we try to “have it all” the more our lives become out of control.  Read the rest of this entry »

Five simple questions to get help you relate to your purpose and ultimate feeling of fulfillment:

1. What am I here to contribute, what am I about, and what makes me light up and come alive?
2. What have I always known the most about, and been interested in forever? Is there just one thing, or are there
   several?
3. What would I bring to a community, if it was my sole job to perform, and no one could perform it but me?
4. What am I continually asked to do?
5. What do people see in me, when they do truly see me?

Here’s a technique for imagining the future you want to create.  It is based on the fact that the subconscious mind cannot distinguish between a real experience and one that is vividly imagined.  In other words, events you’ve vividly imagined can produce psychological and physiological responses that are as significant as those that relate to actual events.  Therefore, if you present the subconscious with negative goals, it operates impersonally as a failure mechanism.  Present it with success goals and it will work just as hard as a success mechanism.  As you develop the picture it becomes like a movie running in your head.  Give it a try by writing out the following questions in as much sensory detail as possible.  Then read the description and see yourself in the movie. Read the rest of this entry »

Would you do your job for no pay?  Do you experience a sense of flow or peace while working?  At the completion of work do you feel energized?  If your answer to these questions is no, you may be among the millions of people who haven’t found their right livelihood.  Consider what you need to contribute to the world in order to be fulfilled.  While you may be experiencing the outward signs of success, do you still feel something is missing?  What would it be like to connect with the unique expression of your spirit?  If you’re looking for deep fulfillment and an overall sense of inner peace, you must have the courage to live in accordance with your life’s purpose. Read the rest of this entry »

I have been asked at times for principles or ways to get started making changes in one’s life.  Here are some tips to consider in order to achieve self-mastery.  As you consider these ideas, it’s important to realize that change happens from the inside out so the most critical relationship you have is with yourself.  Only you truly know what’s best for you, what brings you joy, what you want to create as a legacy in your life.  I believe it’s true that an unexamined life is not worth living.  The primary reason for this is that until you truly know yourself, it is likely that you are living out someone’s life.  Uncovering the words written into your soul when you arrived on the planet is the only way to know for sure and that requires self-awareness. Read the rest of this entry »